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Pornocalypse Now

Pornocalypse Now

"If you want a picture of the future, imagine a boot stamping on a human face – forever.”—George Orwell

Now that Gitmo is basically kaput and Bush’s war on the future has been replaced with Obama’s strategy for the present, is Orwell’s forewarning still relevant? Or has the real-world manifestation of the Orwellian already reached its peak and entered into decline?

Let me entertain you with a fantastic scenario – If Orwell had been born in 1984 rather than 1903, he would be a member of a subset of young men whose lives have been framed by two critical shifts in the mental landscape: the collapse of the global superpowers (USSR/US) and the rise of the pornography industry. Obviously there are countless events that have shaped the world in the past quarter century, but in terms of timing and impact, none have had such a profound effect on the average G8 20-something as the reshaping of conflict and sexual narratives. Just as the war on terror mainstreamed the notion of war without actual war, the pornography industry has successfully popularized sex without sex. So what would this bizarro Orwell be getting up to while the world totters on the brink of depression? Plumbing the depths of the English language or playing Call of Duty in his underwear? As newspapers are dying off quicker than Mexican salamanders, our young Orwell would probably not be a down-and-out journalist, but more likely a disengaged copywriter – his dystopian prose taking on an entirely different shape and form:

“If you want a picture of the future, imagine a boot stamping on a woman’s face. Now zoom out, it’s a slutty blonde bitch getting her ass hammered by two monster cocks. Coming soon to DVD, Nazi Sluts 9: Invasion of the Schwarzkommando!

It’s the early ’90s, sometime during the beginning of the Clinton era, around the time that the Democrats put an end to the Republican war on porn that raged throughout the Reagan/Bush years. The Berlin Wall has crumbled and East Germans are no longer forced to smuggle in their contraband pornos from the liberated West. Gorbachev’s perestroika reforms have made it possible for Moscovites to get their hands on Japanese camcorders, the first small steps towards the production of Soviet smut.

History is so, like, over. Western liberal democracy has proven itself to be the superior form of human governance and capitalism is set to conquer the remaining holdouts by the end of the decade. This ideological evolution is made consummate by the image of a barrel-chested David Hasslehoff, running in slow motion down a sunbathed beach with nothing but tits ’n ass heat-waving in the periphery. This is, in the words of Slavoj Žižek, the true utopia.

“Professional ethics … I’m not just a doctor, I’m a man!”

I’m sitting in a rumpus room with some friends, surrounded by a pastiche of half-empty bottles of Crystal Pepsi, Cherry Coke, miscellaneous snack standards and bits and pieces of Super Nintendo paraphernalia.

The tips of my fingers are stickied with thousands, if not millions, of microscopic junk particles that have joined to create a thin, coagulated coating of Cheetos-brand neon magic cheese dust.

I let the plastic Cheetos bag fall onto the epically-outdated shag carpet and I’m licking my fingers one by one – lapping up the Sunset Yellow FCF (CI 15985 or Yellow No. 6), the disodium-based colorant that gives Cheetos their trademark hue. My eyes are glued to the TV. It’s a newer Japanese model that’s connected by an analog umbilical of tangled black wires to an oversized VCR that loads chunky VHS tapes from the top.

Beyond the faint hum of the machinery, my mates’ chuckles and gasps and the crunching sound of cheesy poofs, my ears are keenly attuned to the dialogue of the “film” that’s got us so transfixed.

“Fuck my pussy doctor!” the nurse commands, putting an end to the corndog foreplay that I thought would never cease. She then lays herself out on the examination table and spreads her milky thighs wide open as the shot dissolves into a close-up of a mustachioed physician’s abstractly penetrating gaze.

And so it began. My virgin eyes were submerged into an ocean of luma-chroma sex acts and the outrageous poetics of consumerist eros: turgid hard-ons mechanically harpooning seeping vaginal canals and gracefully spraying sperm streams atop mountainous titties with their omnipresent nipple peaks.

But my encounters with the world of adult home videos were rare. Like Playboy or Hustler, skin flicks had to be obtained indirectly, usually through an older bro who would just end up taking your money and keeping the booty for himself.

And then everything changed, drastically. The nightly news told a story about some hicks in Oklahoma City who had detonated their imaginary Death Star with a truck full of ammonium nitrate fertilizer. Boom: disconnected body parts strewn about and a federal building torn into shreds within seconds. Pundits and experts alike labeled the attack as an act of domestic terrorism. But the tasseography of the news ticker was of no interest, the television had become redundant and outdated. I was 14 and a friend had just gotten a 14.4 US Robotics dial-up modem – our ticket to unchecked informational freedom and, more importantly, thousands of pictures of naked women.

In tune with my demographic dropping its collective nutsack, pornography transformed from a primarily physical medium into a limitless stream of easily accessible imagery. Production costs bottomed out, profits exploded and a booming transnational porno industry came into its own.

The mass appeal of Deep Throat,-era sex cinema hits was resurrected in the form of downloadable masturbation resources. Only now, rather than experiencing sex media in a gender-inclusive mainstream setting, Internet pornography catered primarily to the individual male’s niche desires. Jerk-off fantasies were the dominant leitmotifs of the early Internet – its raison d’être. The Internet was, and still is, for porn. In the ever-expanding webiverse, pornographic imagery supplied the perfect vacuum in which blogs, social networking and YouTube could come into existence. Buoyed by this exponential growth and the backing of media conglomerates like News Corp, the production of hard-core video increased by 700 percent from 1992 to 2005, with worldwide revenues clocking in at nearly $100 billion. Porn had officially arrived, and its enviable profit margins forced “legit” mass media to gradually conform to the aesthetic of its fleshy contours.

It was as if the white noise of consumerism had turned a shade of hot pink. All of a sudden the leader of the free world was evoking Peter North via René Magritte à la “this is not a blow job.” Soon after, the world gasped as two giant metal phalluses penetrated the twin monoliths of capitalist civilization. A blockbuster snuff film to ring in the new century, the “I can’t look but I must” sensation of the 9/11 tape loop would go on to serve as the stylistic precursor for 2 Girls 1 Cup.

-$-

Fast-forward to the summer of 2007. I’m 26 and I’ve been tapped by a bro to do a shoot for a website that specializes in “gangsta porn” – tattooed bad-girls tricked out with sawed-off shotguns and a “fuck the world” attitude.

I walk into the makeshift studio and there are a number of naked and semi-naked porn “stars” (white dwarfs really) floating around like wandering livestock. After drilling back a couple vodka tonics, I follow the girls over to a cheap white-paper backdrop and we get to into it. “Spread your legs,” I say. “Eat her pussy out, yeah, that’s it, oh fuck yeah.” I’m just regurgitating tired clichés but it feels natural, like swinging a bat or popping a jump shot. Hostile facial contortions and faux cunnilingus ensue. The producer is up to his eyeballs in blow, pacing back and forth, his teeth chattering up and down like a wind-up toy.

Around the same time that I’m snapping snatch for a hundred bucks an hour, a fellow that goes by the nom de guerre of Max Hardcore is on his way to prison for obscenity offences, the first victim of the Bush administration’s reignition of the Bible Belt’s anti-porn crusades.

An infamous character even within the industry, Mr. Hardcore is a noteworthy pioneer of the gonzo subgenre – a grimy lo-fi POV style that champions a depraved and misogynistic approach to adult video. The typical Hardcore film features female performers who are made to look like prepubescent teens, schoolgirls who skip class to get brutalized by Mr. Hardcore himself.

A Wisconsin-born, cowboy hat-wearing opportunist, Hardcore took advantage of the mid ’90s amateur boom and has steadily pushed the limit ever since. His work foreshadows the style of video (no plot and little pretense) that now dominates Internet upload sites: an increasingly violent performance style dubbed “abuse porn.”

I’m browsing a porn upload site, watching a scene from a Hardcore compilation vid, and writing the sentence you are reading right now, my MacBook on my lap nuking any possibility of future offspring. The video features a performer dressed up to appear as if she were 13, she’s sucking off Hardcore in the most hard-core of manners, so forcefully that she begins to vomit through her nose. Hardcore responds by urinating into her mouth and onto her face and with urine in her eyes and mascara running down her cheeks, she starts looking like a battered clown. In the next clip Hardcore is pulling on her hair and shoving a dildo down her esophagus and she begins to fake cry, which turns out to be more disturbing than if she were to shed real tears.

Not my cup of tea. I continue to surf, looking for a video that features Sasha Grey, who should be calling me for an interview at any moment. Grey, 21, is the porno industry’s public relations wet dream come true. She has already performed in over 100 adult films and stars in Steven Soderbergh’s arthouse feature The Girlfriend Experience. She’s slated to be the “next Jenna Jameson,” and might be the first porn star to successfully convert her adult video (AV) celebrity into a legit acting career. What interests me about Grey is that she represents a notable shift in the pornographic ideal – she doesn’t project the typical persona that we’ve come to accept as the standard AV schtick. She’s young and calculated and delivers performances that are provocatively masculine. A quick Google reveals that her personal brand is rooted in the alternative. She’s done an American Apparel advertising campaign, promotes herself as a quasi-postfeminist intellectual and frequently name-drops the likes of Jean-Luc Godard and Jean-Paul Sartre.

The first video that pops up is titled Sasha Grey Anal. I click play figuring it will provide a good warm-up for our phoner. It starts with a close-up of Grey’s lips and she is directly addressing the viewer:

“I want to be your sex slave, I want you to hurt me, I want you to make me cry. I’ll do anything, anything at all, whatever you want, I’m such a fucking whore, I need to train, I need to be broken, I want you to fucking hurt me.”

A couple of minutes later some dude is holding the camera and staring down at Grey, who is staring up at us while giving one of her trademark ‘throat fuck’ blowjobs. She sounds like she’s choking, and the dude starts to drag her by the hair with his cock still in her mouth.

Then the phone rings, not in the video, but in my apartment. It’s her, the real Sasha Grey, as opposed to the porno-world Sasha Grey flickering on my laptop.

“What does the word pornographic mean to you?”

“To me it’s not just people having sexual encounters, or pictures of people having sex in magazines. More than half of the news we see on television today is pornographic because it’s not real news. It’s pure junk for the mind…They are manipulating the audience to feel a certain way. It’s all encompassing. American Idol is pornographic, completely exploiting people’s talent or lack of talent for television ratings.”

On screen, Sasha is gagging on a dildo that the dude has just pulled out of her ass. “Choke yourself on it” he says. I skip ahead a few minutes and Sasha is presenting to the viewer a rather apt existential dilemma:

“Is that what you fucking want? You want this filthy whore’s tight little asshole?"

The real Sasha Grey says in my left ear:

“… I think we’re still very repressed, especially in America. It comes back to what does pornography mean. In Europe there are more films that have to do with sexuality than violence and here in America it is the opposite. And I think we can sell sex all day on television, in magazines and on billboards but when it comes down to it people are still afraid to talk about their sexuality …”

“So are we lacking an important dialogue?”

“Definitely, It’s still embarrassing. If you try to speak with a Midwest housewife, or a young 20-something from the Midwest and say cunt or pussy she is going to freak out, even if you say vagina – for some of them, the word vagina is a disgusting, vile word. You have to say ‘down there.’ It’s really bizarre.”

The calm, thoughtful tone of her voice creates an unsettling sensual cocktail when mixed with the vacancy of her pixilated hazel eyes, an oasis of “the real” in a desert of unreality. Or perhaps it’s just a mirage or a “lovemark,” as marketing guru Kevin Roberts might say. The Sasha Grey brand is an ideal vehicle for the normalization of porn because she’s a willing industry activist who genuinely believes that the consumption of her videos promotes a positive understanding of sexual health.

But has our outlook on sex become so pornofied that we’re willing to accept 20 minutes of vacuous anal sex as sex-positive edutainment? Although porn has been embraced by feminists looking to shrug off the failures of the Dworkin era, the discussion that predominates current analysis of the medium tends to ignore the nature of the industry’s core demographic: males, aged 18-29.

If the average porn consumer – a male North American, Japanese or European 20-something – were to walk into a doctor’s office and receive a virility exam, the results would be abysmal. Due to our toxic living standards and the prevalence of untested chemicals in the social environment, the male gender has recently entered into rapid physiological and genetic decline.

In affluent, industrialized nations, the birth of males has dropped every year for the past 30 years. Genital defects, learning disabilities, autism, ADD and a variety of other afflictions have all skyrocketed in males while remaining comparatively low in females. But perhaps the most telling indicator of the male plight comes down to that which is essentially synonymous with the pornographic: sperm. The average Gen Y bro has a sperm count that is 50 percent lower than his father’s and, of the few spermazoids he does have, 85 percent of them are genetically damaged. According to Dr. Fernando Marina, fertility expert at Barcelona’s CEFER Reproduction Institute, if this trend continues, all men will be infertile within 60 years.

On a genetic level, the male gender is crumbling, which almost seems natural when one considers the fragmented state of modern masculinity.

On the other end of the feminist spectrum of opinion from Sasha Grey is Virginie Depentes, who initially gained notoriety (and infamy) with the release of her book/film Baise Moi (Fuck Me), which follows the story of a part-time prostitute and a part-time porn actress as they go on a hyper-sexual, murderous rampage against the rape-prone patriarchal society that oppresses and humiliates them. In her latest book, King Kong Theory, Despentes states:

“Pornography hits the blind corner of reason. It directly addresses our primitive fantasies, bypassing words and thought. The hard-on or wetness comes first, wondering why follows behind. Self-censorship reactions are shaken. Porn images don’t give us any choice: here’s what turns you on, here’s what makes you respond.”

I recently had a discussion with Despentes on the subject of porn and masculinity, during which she commented:

“In front of climate change or economic crisis, men and women are equal. We are being confronted with something very big … I don’t think men are trying to understand what masculinity is like women did with femininity in the ’70s. Lots of women asked themselves ‘what was femininity?’ Men seem to think masculinity is so natural. It’s not.”

In her work, Despentes raises two very interesting points pertaining to the pornographic dialogue. First, that the traditional anti-porn stance on how violent and misogynistic material incites rape and violence towards women is false due to an inaccurate analysis: pornography actually subdues rather than provokes. Consuming pornography does not lead to more sex, it leads to more porn. Much like eating McDonalds everyday will accustom you to food that (although enjoyable) is essentially not food, pornography conditions the consumer to being satisfied with an impression of extreme sex rather than the real.

Second, unlike women, men have largely failed to re-evaluate their sense of purpose in the 21st century. Feminism as a social revolution resulted in the emancipation of the female and the displacement of traditional male roles. Rather than making a conscious effort to resituate “the masculine” in the context of rising gender equality, heterosexual men have in many ways fallen into a subconscious, anti-feminine counterrevolution.

And this takes us back to our imaginary Orwell. Picture him sitting on a couch, in his underwear, at 2:00 a.m. His naked profile lit by the warm glow of a laptop screen. He’s surfing the net, reading about how Hitler invented the first sex doll, which prompts him to play a quick round of Call of Duty. He’s tossing grenades and sniping Nazis, but then he gets bored so he pops in a bukkake DVD and tosses off to the image of a female performer being submerged in seminal fluid. He’s satiated and disconnected but in the virtual world he’s still a dominant, violent, virulent alpha male.

The porn industry, now bigger than Hollywood and pro sports combined, has facilitated the transformation of sex into a liquid consumer good. There is nothing left to separate the individual from the market and the industry’s success has also produced a feedback loop that results in its own intensification. In order to compete with porn, the mainstream media appropriates the pornographic, which in turn forces porn producers and websites to create more vicious and chaotic content. The mainstream becomes porn and porn gradually edges closer to snuff.

Of course very little of this sexual media reflects reality in any way. When watching hard-core porn, one is struck by the message it so desperately attempts to communicate: sex is boring. And the more violent the porn, it seems, the more anti-sex its message. But could anything be further from the truth? Isn’t having sex with another living, human being the one thing that provides the most intense connection with the present moment?

As our surroundings become inundated with pornographic imagery aimed at keeping us plugged into the feedback loop, it’s easy to get distracted from what’s going on beyond all the hot pink noise. It’s in this fog of fake fucking that man sleepwalks closer toward an abyss of genetic implosion, environmental destruction and total economic collapse.

But crisis can precipitate change, and what needs to occur now is the genesis of a new “masculinism” – a philosophy of man that embraces the achievements of feminism and strives to reconnect with the real.

Since the beginning of America’s recession, over 80 percent of those who’ve been laid off have been men. This ironic byproduct of pay inequality provides a couple of great opportunities: the chance for a radical shift in gender relations, and the chance for men to rediscover how to subsist outside of the tyranny of consumer ease.


The last of the great film-school slackers, Douglas Haddow now works as a writer/designer/consultant in Vancouver, British Columbia. He enjoys reading, bike-riding, sunny days, tasty waves and positive vibrations. He has a blog: pblks.com

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October
10, 2009
12:39 pm
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please relax.. Porn is just porn... not the anti christ

November
05, 2009
05:07 pm
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to a virgin like me, YES, IT IS THE ANTI-CHRIST

and he's right: it's mainly responsible for the sexualisation that is all too common in today's media

and now, having said that, i'm reminded of a keith haring subvertisment i discovered today: blacking out the 'c' on a chardón jeans poster XD look it up, why not?

October
06, 2009
07:14 pm
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Nice post!

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September
25, 2009
12:22 pm
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I wish to borrow a line (though not the greater context or meaning) from Fight Club: "We're a generation of men raised by women."

In the course of a very short time, boys were taught to be more like girls. I liken a young boy growing up in the 1980s to a German growing up in the post-war years. Traditional masculinity was brutish and unjust, something that young boys needed to bear a collective shame about. The world would be a much better place if men could just be a bit more like women. Young girls experienced a broadening of their options: they could continue to be a traditional woman and be praised for that, or they could become more aggressive and (aside from a few male dinosaurs) be praised for that too. Young boys, on the other hand, experienced a narrowing of their options. Their traditional roles were condemned, but, other than a vague suggestion to stop being so male, they were without a viable option for modern manhood. A man can only go so far with embracing femininity before he is a different kind of outcast.

Part of the problem with some feminist thought and historical study is that it often speaks of deliberate intention to oppress women where none existed. One terribly politically incorrect theory which we may need to accept as truth someday is that traditional gender roles (and by traditional, I mean originating in mankind's prehistory, not pre-women's lib traditional) existed for very good reasons. That is to say, differences in the socialization and the division of labor between men and women based on some fundamental physical and psychological differences probably made a lot of sense at one time (and may have even been evolutionarily advantageous).

This is not to say that because cavemen did it we can do it too. Our modern world does not necessitate gender divisions as it did in our pre-history. But telling men not to be what has been their biological and sociological model since that time doesn't seem to be a terribly effective way of adapting a new generation of males to 21st century life.

Just as capitalism can be harnessed to turn greed into a powerful creative force, and just as women's liberation played on the strengths and desires of women to foster independence and equality, humanity would be best served by an approach that employs the strengths and desires of men to redefine manliness.

Of course, I haven't the slightest idea how this could be done. :)

Sorry for the disjointed text. It's quite late where I am.

August
31, 2009
06:48 am
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A better title would have been "A Pot of Clits Now!" But seriously folks, as a dude who grew up with it, I am having a hard time justifying watching it - porn I mean. Most of it is just mean shit that turns me off. I feel like I've seen it change (unless it's me that's changed) from something dirty and weird and slightly transgressive to something that is predictable, unimaginative and cruel. There's a lot of anger in the new porn. And I am off it now.

August
03, 2009
03:55 pm
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If you slackers are the revolution we are well and truly fucked.
July
03, 2009
08:21 am
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The video game in the author’s example likely consumes hours more time than the pornography, or even TV for that matter. I’ve probibly spent a few days of wank time worth of time just reading and responding to this article. On the other hand I like how balanced the opinions are in the article. He puts Grey’s views in there to counterpoint his heavily anti-porn views. club penguin cheats
June
24, 2009
07:34 pm
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The porn industry is nowhere near the size it claims to be. The industry is obsessed with it's own legitimacy and make ridiculous claims on their sales and public support check out the Forbes article on this topic http://www.forbes.com/2001/05/25/0524porn.html
June
22, 2009
12:32 am
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anyone interested in this subject(or sasha grey)should check out the documentary"9 to 5 days in porn".i found it pretty interesting
June
15, 2009
11:43 pm
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You do realize that the intelligent detached cynicism of your magazine is really just a high-brow comedy act. The tragic is the glue that holds it together. Everything you see already was, the world has just put it into form over time. To say Orwell would be a porn-entranced slob today is to say he would be the analog of this in his time - which he clearly wasn't. We have not changed one bit we've just turned the world more into ourselves.
June
15, 2009
11:09 am
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Wow. Jack-off in to your own gender's demise. Betcha didn't see that one coming!
June
14, 2009
03:39 pm
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Porn is a complex subject, and this article scratches the surface of the tip of the iceberg.
June
05, 2009
06:48 am
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i find it just amazing how people are so ready to condemn the magazine when it comes to porn as so many guys watch porn and will take offense when reading the article. As a 16 year old guy i watch quite a lot of porn but still i appreciated the article and the fact it made me question something that is so prominent in the world now
June
04, 2009
11:03 pm
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This was really badly written.
June
05, 2009
04:03 am
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I thought it was brilliant.
June
14, 2009
12:29 am
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I really enjoyed reading this too. The intellectual pornstar scares me. I'm thinking we will only see more of them in the future. Sexual openess and freedom is not the same as increasing access to porn in society, you can always tell if a lover watches a lot of porn. And it is quite misleading in how to give good head, the tongue flick is crap. But porn is really not about her pleasure at all so I shouldn't be surprised. Piledrive away. I guess if we mainstream porn, which is a (generally) misogynist mastubatory tool, I guess soon we'll just be a bunch of wankers. Superb.
June
03, 2009
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I would like to simply say that I love you all...one by one, since the first day I subscribed to the magazine, some years ago. I really enjoy the freedom of expression contained in each intents, contents, pages, in each speeches and words and images...as well as the information provided. I approve and sustain (in my small) the courage you all demonstrate, editors, readers and bloggers, this, disconnecting it to the fact that I could or not agree with the submitted...that it is said "is few or not enough"... However, if we view, in a first stance, the freedom of expression and speech as the more appreciable and valuable tool to enhance Democracy, I would say, I am sure, we can reach the goal in its time... When I read the articles,the blogs, something happens. I enter in a dimension where evaluation, judgement, comparisons become obsolete...I simply follow the "flux"...and in a smooth and very delicate way I feel, expanding,learning...growing, flowing...and I enjoy... I become human. Thank you. Me.
June
01, 2009
04:05 pm
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As a woman, I think porn can be a turn on. There is also something very wrong about it at the same time. Most porn is phallocentric, meaning penis-centered in the terms of entitlement to pleasure. As a female, that has an appeal, certainly, but its limited because its such a one way appeal. Porn can be a turn on until the realization slowly sinks in that the pleasure does not intend to be returned to the woman, that she's just there to be used. In reality, it's pretty depressing and if most men have that attitude coloring their minds during sex, it can ruin it. It would be so much better if porn taught men to be turned on by providing women with pleasure first and then receiving it. Sometimes when I think about how porn tends to ignore women's REAL needs so outright (and not some male fantasized version of her needs), I think men are just treating women like trash bins, and that's sad. It's such a turn off. If I could have it my way, American cultural values would allow men to enjoy pleasuring women and valuing committed relationships. In movies (non-porn), if there is any hint of such a theme, it's called a "chick flick." What does that say about men? The desire and dream of positive, healthy relationships and love aren't just for screaming teenage groupies. I know lots of young guys must love the Twilight movie, even though it's been deemed a chick flick. It's time to admit it and take pride in admitting the soft side. Well, that's how I'd have it anyway.
June
29, 2009
02:33 pm
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It's sad, but that "soft side" will only get you so far with women. While women often claim to want a sensitive man, they still seem more often drawn to the "bad boys," at least until they hit age 25-30 and start shopping around for an actual husband. I've also found that many/most women fantasize quite a bit about aggressive men, instead of the slow, "romantic" sex often portrayed in "chick flicks." Society is confusing men about what masculinity is. The feminists say we should respect women, and that porn is degrading to them. However, this leads men to be uncomfortable and shy around women when it comes to sex (at least in my case). It took a long while before I realized "HEY! Women do like sex! And a lot of them even like doggy style, being spanked, and giving head!" Sex is often about power games. Mainstream porn has the man in charge of everything, but there is quite a bit out there that reverses it. Very little porn doesn't use power games in an attempt to intensify the eroticism. That's not to say sex should be so phallo-centric as it is in porn. Not at all. But a man can be aggressive sexually, and still be attentive to the woman's desires in bed. And even if she wants to be called a "whore" when they're having sex, he can treat her with the utmost respect outside of the bedroom, because they both know they're just playing roles and it's all just a sex game meant to get each other off. My problem with this article is it didn't give any solutions other than "we need a dialog about masculinity." I agree, but the author didn't do anything to define masculinity for us. As the anonymous woman I'm replying to stated, many men to have a softer side, and we shouldn't be afraid of saying so. We need to redefine our terms. "Sensitive" is not synonymous with "feminine." The Awakening of feminists should have spurred an awakening in men as well, but we got scared of losing our power and became reactionary. Instead of giving women like Kate Chopin an earnest look, we blew them off and called them bitches. Because that's what we thought it meant to be a man. Our search should begin with feminist literature and film. As women searched what it meant to be a woman, they also showed the downfalls of a hyper-masculine society. Not only is such a society bad for women, but it's bad for men as well. We are evolving into a more gender-equal society, and men should embrace this. Women are now comfortable working outside the home, and men should feel just as comfortable being a stay-at-home father. Traditional gender roles have their place, but when we structure our psyches on them, we lose ourselves in a constant, confused pondering of society's rules.
June
01, 2009
03:55 am
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I was shocked to read the porn industry was bigger than Hollywood and pro sports. I'm not sure it's true: http://www.forbes.com/2001/05/25/0524porn.html
June
01, 2009
07:35 pm
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guess it depends how you define it. The global porn industry is absolutely bigger than Hollywood.
June
01, 2009
12:37 am
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"We are doomed as a gender if an image can stimulate the senses that frame our reality" ~Mitch "capitalized for dominance".
May
29, 2009
07:39 am
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wow. 120 comments... I guess, that stands for its self.
May
28, 2009
11:12 am
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This article appealed tome in its realness and also the excellent and salient data within. I do not believe the hype that men are useless. In fact, sport is a great way to keep men engaged and occupied. In the old days, some percentage of men did go to war to stab the enemy and fuck his women. That fact seems to be lost in today's sanitized world. If more women could say that they want their man to act like "Conan", and if these women were actualized and self aware enough to engage that Conanic force in their own bedrooms, certainly human families would improve. But then, I believe the blood of our ancestors lives within us so just ignore my hippy crap. No but seriously, the Native Americans would have lacrosse games that were literally huuuge like a square mile field with hundreds of players for a days-long event that had real prizes and competition for prizes. It serves as a good way to burn off energy while keeping the menfolk happy. Also they could take a time out and go fuck then jump right back into the game! Really, the solutions are out there.
June
15, 2009
01:55 pm
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Ultimate Warrior, is that you?
June
15, 2009
01:55 pm
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Ultimate Warrior, is that you?
May
20, 2009
10:20 am
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Our way of living today is training us for the world we are creating. In the near future, people will stay in because of crime, disease, pollution, traffic or simple fear of the unknown - suine flu is just the last example. Fertility rates will drop, and fertile women will one day be our queens - just like in the bee world. We will evolve to be able to satisfy our basic needs without any human interaction - from buying online to chating online to fucking online. We will feel safe and be useless, even if we can't think about it this way. Porn is the sexual solution to our incapable nature to relate. Religion is our spiritual solution to our incapable vision of reality. Consuming is our solution to our need for novelty and change - controlled change, just in the material plan. The entire discussion here - separating women, as the new human wonder, full of virtue, from men, those beasty irrational creatures - is just another clear example of the path we have always chosen. Find someone to blame and demand punishment for those. There is no solution. The world and live are much more powerful than any group or even gender. With a TV set and a computer in each household, it's obvious people will fear each other more and more. In my opinion, the way out is simply accepting each other's choices and making the best of our own. With porn or with the Pope.
May
26, 2009
12:52 am
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May
18, 2009
03:06 pm
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I found this to be an interesting, well-written, and pretty thoughtful article - unlike a disturbingly large percentage of the comments, which tended toward the histrionic and self-indulgent far too often. I agree, though, that the article didn't really go that deep - it seemed more of a thought piece, a personal essay, than anything indepth, which is fine if you weren't expecting more. I also agree that the emphasize on the more abusive end of mainstream hard core was regrettable, in that it tended to diffuse the points the writer was making, which I think were mostly right on, and about even the most common, less objectionable contemporary hard core. The stuff about masculinity and biology (ADD, pesticides, all that bit) just seemed to me not worked in at all, and requiring the kind of deeper argument that the article didn't make. It would have been better without it, as it served as a distraction. It's were the personal essay aspect really kicked in - clearly all this stuff is connected for the author, and he's thinking about it in interesting ways, but he has more useful things to say about the general quality of today's porn that this is inadequately developed line on the decline in biological masculinity.
May
14, 2009
01:29 pm
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with articles like this, and with the New York and LA Times are on the verge of folding, how is this rag still in print?

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